Picture this: it’s September, and you’re an anxious first year university student. You’re eager to meet as many people as possible, because everyone says that the first few weeks are the most vital for making longlasting connections. The only problem? Most of your friends are living in campus dorms and becoming fast friends with their floormates, while you’re left fending for yourself as a lonesome commuter.
This was my exact dilemma about 2 years ago. Now, this is not to say there are zero opportunities to make friends as a first year commuter. Freshman orientation programs, clubs, and dedicated lounge spaces for socializing are all great ways to get yourself out there. I’m merely arguing that these opportunities don’t develop the same type of bond as sharing a communal bathroom or being told off by a residence advisor together.
Despite my romanticization of the first year dorm experience, it isn’t always easy to make friends on residence. If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard someone complain about the generic conversations they’ve had with floormates, I would have more than a few dollars. Apparently, they go something like this: asking if they live on-campus, awaiting their “yes”, asking which residence, and giving a courtesy “nice” after their answer. The friendship doesn’t always go beyond these formalities.
Without a doubt, it’s possible to make close friends as a first-year student regardless of whether you’re living on-campus or not. Personally, I found that joining a club that I feel fulfilled by and welcomed in can make all the difference for making connections at school. Focus on enjoying your university experience and you’ll surely find your people along the way.
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